Breaking Down Common Myths About Masturbation

Let’s have an open and honest conversation about masturbation. For something so natural, it’s

surprising how much stigma and misinformation surround it. It’s time to clear the air and set the

record straight by addressing four common myths about masturbation and why they simply aren’t

true.

Myth 1: Masturbation Has to Be a Solo Activity

One of the most common misconceptions about masturbation is that it’s strictly a solo act. While

it’s often personal and private, masturbation can absolutely be part of a partnered experience. In

fact, incorporating mutual masturbation into your intimacy can help build trust, enhance

communication, and spark curiosity in your relationship. It’s a chance to explore each other’s

desires in a new way, or even to introduce toys or techniques that can enhance your shared pleasure.

Think of it as an opportunity for discovery—both yours and your partner’s. Whether it’s exploring

side-by-side or using it as a way to express fantasies, masturbation doesn’t have to exist in isolation.

It can be an enriching and exciting addition to your shared sexual experiences.

Myth 2: Masturbation is Bad for Productivity

Let’s bust this myth once and for all. The idea that masturbation is somehow a distraction or

detracts from productivity is rooted in outdated thinking. In reality, taking a mindful break to

engage in self-pleasure can have positive effects on your mental and emotional well-being. It can

help reduce stress, elevate your mood, and even improve your focus afterward.

Think of it like any other form of self-care. Just as a walk outside or a quick yoga session can reset

your mind, masturbation can be a healthy way to recharge. Of course, balance is key—like any

activity, it’s about finding what works for you and integrating it into your life in a way that feels

natural and beneficial.

Myth 3: People in Relationships Don’t Masturbate

There’s a persistent belief that once you’re in a relationship, masturbation becomes unnecessary.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. People in relationships masturbate for all kinds of reasons—

to explore their own pleasure, to relieve stress, or simply because it’s a healthy and enjoyable

activity.

Masturbation isn’t a sign of dissatisfaction in a relationship. On the contrary, it can be a way to

maintain a strong connection with yourself, which in turn can make you a better partner. Knowing

what you enjoy on your own can lead to more open and fulfilling communication about your desires

within your relationship. It’s not an “either/or” scenario—you can enjoy self-love and partnered

love without conflict.

Myth 4: Using Solo Sex Toys Will Ruin Sex Without Them

This myth stems from the fear that using sex toys will create dependency or make “toy-free” sex

less satisfying. The truth? Toys don’t replace anything—they enhance. They’re tools for

exploration, not competition.

Using toys during masturbation can help you learn more about your body and discover new ways to

experience pleasure. This knowledge can be brought into partnered sex to make it even moreenjoyable. Far from “ruining” anything, toys can open the door to greater intimacy and satisfaction,

whether you’re flying solo or sharing the experience with someone else.

Why It’s Time to Normalise the Conversation

Masturbation is a natural, healthy, and normal part of life. Yet so many myths and taboos persist,

making it harder for people to embrace it as an act of self-care. By breaking down these myths, we

can foster a more open, informed, and positive conversation about sexual wellness.

Remember, self-love is for everyone—regardless of your relationship status, gender, or age. It’s

about knowing your body, understanding your needs, and giving yourself permission to enjoy the

pleasure you deserve.

Let’s talk about it, normalise it, and celebrate it. Because your sexual wellness is an essential part of

your overall well-being.