Are You Struggling to Make the First Move? Here’s How to Ease Into Intimacy

Feeling nervous about initiating intimacy is something so many of us face. You’re not alone

if self-doubt or communication hurdles are making it hard to spark those moments of

closeness with your partner. Here are some gentle ways to help you open up and feel more

comfortable.

1. Get to the Root of It

Start by understanding what might be holding you back. It could be past

experiences, body image concerns, or simply feeling unsure of your partner’s

interest. Taking a moment to identify these feelings can make it easier to address

them and move forward.

2. Open Up the Conversation

Sharing your feelings with your partner can bring you closer and relieve any anxiety

you may have. Be honest about your needs and boundaries—chances are they’ll

appreciate the openness and may even feel the same. Talking things through builds

trust and can make it feel safer to initiate.

3. Ease In with Small Gestures

You don’t have to go all out right away! Sometimes a light touch, a compliment, or a

playful comment can be the perfect way to let your partner know you’re interested.

Taking small steps makes initiating feel more natural and builds confidence over

time.

4. Forget Perfection—Focus on Connection

It’s easy to feel like you need to “perform” or reach a goal, but intimacy is really

about connecting with each other. Let go of any pressure to be perfect and just enjoy

the moment. The real magic happens when you both feel comfortable and engaged.

5. Try Tools for a Confidence Boost

Products that nurture intimacy can help set the mood and make initiating feel

easier. For instance, JOMO’s CBD arousal oil can add a soothing, sensual touch that

invites closeness. Or, explore the Mojo vibrating wand—it’s designed for both

pleasure and muscle relaxation, creating a gentle entry point for shared intimacy.

6. Practice Self-Care for Inner Confidence

Feeling good in your own skin is key. Whether it’s through exercise, meditation, or

simply wearing something that makes you feel amazing, taking time for self-care

can make a world of difference in how comfortable you feel with your partner.

Remember: Taking Things Slow is Absolutely Okay

There’s no rulebook for initiating intimacy. By embracing small steps, honest

communication, and a focus on connection, you’re creating a space where both of you canfeel at ease. Give yourself time, trust your journey, and know that initiating will feel more

natural with each step.