How to Have a Summer Fling… With Yourself

It’s hot out. You’re hot. And frankly, you don’t need anyone else to make this summer unforgettable.

When we think of summer flings, we usually imagine whirlwind romances, messy kisses, and maybe a regrettable situationship or two. But what if your next summer fling didn’t involve another person at all? What if it was just you?

Let us introduce the most nourishing, satisfying, drama-free affair you’ll ever have: a summer fling with yourself.

Why Now?

Summer is symbolic. It’s a season of shedding layers—physically, emotionally, and even sexually. You feel a little bolder, more exposed, more in your body. And yet, that energy often gets channelled toward others. What if you turned it inward?

Pleasure isn’t something you should only give away. When you learn to give it to yourself deeply, intentionally, without shame you raise the bar for every connection in your life.

• Step 1: Make Space for Seduction Start by treating your alone time like a date. Romanticise the hell out of it. Light the candles. Change the sheets. Play music that makes you feel like the sexiest version of yourself (whether that’s Beyoncé, Bad Bunny, or a vibey jazz playlist). The goal here isn’t to perform. It’s to drop in. This is about creating an environment that signals to your body: it’s safe to feel good.
• Step 2: Choose Your Pleasure Ritual, This isn’t about chasing orgasm it’s about exploring sensation.
  • That might mean:
    • A warm, candlelit bath with essential oils.
    • A sensual massage with JOMO’s CBD Arousal Oil yes, you can absolutely rub it on more than one place.
    • A mirror session where you admire your body without criticism.
    • A slow self-pleasure session, where you explore what feels good without rushing to the finish line.
    • Ask yourself: What would feel delicious right now? Then do that.
• Step 3: Tune In, Not Out We’re used to zoning out. Fast-paced lives, overstimulation, and performance pressure can make us treat sex especially solo sex like a chore to be ticked off. But this summer fling? It’s not performative. It’s devotional.
  • Try:
    • Slowing your breath.
    • Paying attention to sensation over goal.
    • Releasing the idea that every session needs to end in orgasm. The more present you are, the more pleasure you can actually feel.
• Step 4: Keep the Flame Alive This isn’t a one-night stand. This is a full-blown affair with yourself. Set aside regular time for these rituals. Write about them. Share with friends if it feels safe. Treat your solo pleasure practice with the same excitement you would a juicy new partner. Because the truth is, you’re not “too much” for loving your own company. You’re exactly enough.