Summer of Yes: Reconnecting With Your Sexual Self After a Dry Spell

A confidence-boosting guide to getting your spark back, emotionally and physically.

We’ve all been there, caught in a dry spell that starts off as “just a phase” and somehow turns into months of feeling… disconnected. From your body. From desire. From that part of yourself that used to feel turned on by life.

Whether it’s been weeks, months, or even longer since you last felt sexy, this is your sign. Your summer of Yes starts now.

Here’s how to gently, joyfully, and confidently reconnect with your sexual self, one spark at a time.

1. Start with presence, not pressure

It’s easy to jump to “fixing” mode. But before you reach for a vibrator or schedule a date, start by tuning into yourself. What do you actually feel right now? Tender? Numb? Curious?

Desire begins in awareness, not performance. Give yourself permission to feel without forcing anything. A little solo touch, a warm bath, a slow stretch in bed… these are not warmups for sex. They are sex if you say they are.

2. Reframe what ‘dry spell’ really means

It’s not about lack. It’s about pause. And sometimes, that pause is necessary. Dry spells can be a sacred recalibration  time to process, rest, or heal.

This summer, we’re ditching the shame around not wanting sex and replacing it with curiosity. What’s changed in your life, your body, your relationships? And what do you want to feel next?

3. Explore solo play without expectations

This is your summer of experimentation. Take the pressure off the orgasm, and focus on what feels interesting.

Maybe that means reintroducing toys like the Mojo Vibrator  built for gentle, intentional pleasure. Or reaching for our CBD Arousal Oil, designed to bring blood flow and sensation back to the surface (literally).

Touch is healing. And when it’s just for you? Even more powerful.

4. Say yes to sensuality in every form

Reconnection doesn’t have to look like sex at all. It can be wearing something that makes you feel electric. Eating something that makes you moan. Dancing in your underwear. Laughing on the floor. Saying no to what drains you.

Sensuality is a way of being not just a bedroom activity. And every yes you say to yourself is a step back into your power.

5. Bring confidence back through compassion

If you’ve lost touch with your sexual self, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. Bodies change. Desires shift. That spark doesn’t disappear  it just dims sometimes.

Speak to yourself the way you would a lover: gently, playfully, without judgement. Confidence doesn’t come from being “perfect.” It comes from remembering that you are worthy of pleasure right now. As you are.

This summer, say yes to you.

Yes to feeling sexy again  on your terms.
Yes to rediscovering what turns you on.
Yes to putting your pleasure first.

JOMO is here to help you feel connected, confident, and completely at home in your body  no matter how long it’s been.

Ready to say yes?